I recently had a lady at work, who is a slender lady, say “I need to lose 5 lbs, my pants are getting too tight” My immediate response was “Oh that sucks, maybe you can add an extra walk in the afternoon or I did notice you tend to grab something sweet around 2pm” She looked at me astonished. She said that most people tell her she doesn’t need to lose weight because she is already so skinny.
I get so irritated when I hear people say “you don’t need to lose weight, because….”
To me regardless of your size gaining 5lbs affects everyone the same. It doesn’t matter if you are a size 2 or a size 22. It should be something that we all can relate to not discount it because someone is a smaller size. If you are used to wearing a size 5 and your pants are getting tight, wouldn’t that be the same as say me wearing a size 20 and my pants are getting tight? We all have to eat right and exercise until the day we die. Its just what we have to do to be healthy. So the next time you think that someone could afford a couple extra pounds because they are thinner than you remember this:
No matter where we are in our healthy life style 5lbs is still 5lbs and it means the same to everyone
Gaining 5 pounds a year, is 20 pounds in four years, is 50 pounds in ten years.
- Clogged arteries
- Respiratory problems
- Greater Risk for heart attacks
Always be encouraging, don’t discount someone’s weight struggle just because it may not be as big of a struggle as someone else…… Its still a struggle.
In my weight loss journey I discovered that my friend Shasta was doing the same thing. Getting healthy, eating right, exercising, obtaining practically the same goals as I am. Its nice to have people to take your journey with so you aren’t alone and can relate to your struggles. On top of it Shasta is a single mom of a VERY awesome little girl Madi (short for Madisyn).
Once we realized that we were on the same road to a healthy life style, Shasta and I started to friend each other on Instagram & Myfitnesspal. Shasta has been very supportive, always encouraging me, pushing me, and sharing information. She always comments on how great my food looks when I post pictures on Instagram. She has been an awesome cheerleader and I am very blessed that God has put her in my life. She recently, all on her own, lost 100lbs! AMAZING … Most people can’t lose 10lbs let alone 100lbs.
Well as an amazing friend and cheerleader that she is, she was supporting another friend on Instagram and posted a picture of her most troubled area… her stomach. This is how great Shasta is – she went out of her own comfort zone to comfort someone else. With this she was mortified, in tears. She immediately saw all of her insecurities come to light – Stretch marks, hanging skin, fat, imperfect, damaged, embarrassed, disappointed, ashamed, the list can go on and on. She told me “All I see is fat, no guy will want me like this, I had no confidence when I was 100 lbs heavier and now I have even less”
But in reality EVERY comment on her picture was in line with my reaction- courage, mom, bravery, inspiring, loving, amazing, strong, hero, fearless, role model, again the list goes on. Never in my life have I heard or witnessed someone being negative about someone else for getting healthy or bettering their lives.
Why is it that its so easy to focus on the negative of ourselves when most everyone else in our lives sees the positive first? We all do this … I can tell you a million things I hate about myself, but most of it is physical. AND it all can be changed, fixed, worked on.
“The thing you are most ashamed of, God uses that to shape Christ in your heart” – Shawn C Beaty
This is true for me, for Shasta, for everyone. If you take the courage and jump head first, you will find people to catch you and be inspired by your willingness to overcome your shame, struggle, and heartache. Shasta had a very traumatic moment being vulnerable that day to help support a friend, but in the end she had over 105 comments on that picture. 105, people that she inspired, touched, and encouraged just by being courageous and jumping head first.
So I leave you with this exercise, as I started doing today …. When you first wake up, say one positive thing about yourself, whether its out loud, through social media, however, I promise, it will be contagious.
Fear is a darkroom where negatives develop. ~Usman B. Asif
With every change in life there comes fear of the unknown. Weight loss, though, most of the time a good thing…. There are subconsciously reasons why you would fear losing weight. I personally had a real difficult realization of the self- sabotage fears I had (and still have) from losing weight. Everyone likes to focus on the positive sides of weight loss, I wanted to share the not so fun part of my weight loss journey:
My 8 Fears of weight loss
- Dealing with the Attention – I don’t handle this well, I play it off like I do but I dont
- Worrying how I will be accepted at my goal weight
- Not using my weight as an excuse to stay on the sidelines
- Dealing with jealous people, this isn’t a funny, when you better yourself people get jealous and try to bring you down. Although I can be above it most of the time … its wears on you.
- People having higher expectations after losing the weight
- Excess Skin – I will admit I am vain when it comes to this… I want to avoid it at all costs
- I feel that I am undeserving of the success
- (This is the biggest fear) Change in my personality to the healthier, leaner, thinner me.